CONFRONTATION

Hello, dear friends of life, conscious, healthy, kind-hearted, and beautiful-spirited people of my heavenly Turkey.

Our healthy living corner, owned by our wonderful people, is overflowing with life stories from all corners of the country. First and foremost, I extend my love on behalf of myself and my team to you, our esteemed friends, for your beautiful shares and your courage to confront yourselves. Two weeks ago, we wrote a column titled ‘Little Men’. Your emails regarding that article continue to arrive.

This week’s topic is actually society’s biggest bleeding wound. Since society is made up of individuals, I believe it’s necessary to turn the lens towards the phenomenon of ‘human’. One of the most important factors influencing the behavior of an adult individual is the perceptions, feelings, and behavioral habits acquired from childhood.

I see grown men. Business owners, powerful. They even provide employment for hundreds of people. But unfortunately, inside, they are angry children. With an automatic weapon in hand, they pull the trigger with threatening yet equally timid glances. They shoot into their subconscious. Even worse, they photograph it. Not enough. They even record it on video. You know those 15-second short films where we display our lives? Right there. The message sent to perception is this:

“Heeey, don’t come near, I’ll burn you!” This man will raise children in the future, create new generations. You can imagine the rest, can’t you? Perhaps his nephews currently look up to him as a role model? You never know!

Children, regardless of age, carry the traces of the past and bring these traces into the future. We call this ‘displaced aggression’. Unfortunately, power does not distribute manners and consciousness to everyone. A child imitating behaviors seen in their environment lies at the core of social learning. Especially if there are many sycophants applauding that child around them. Right or wrong, applauding everything a person does is, first and foremost, a compromise of the applauder’s own personality. This example is a situation we frequently encounter within families. Regardless of that child’s status, they become an ill-mannered and arrogant personality within society. They may disregard the rights and freedoms of other people for their own interests when it suits them.

Oh Lord, all for me, thank you. But what if I told you that person is inherently, at their core, a very good character, their soul filled with love and compassion? How realistic did that sentence sound to you? Think about it. What is the cognitive power that transforms us into something we are not at our core? Isn’t it our subconscious? I am troubled, my friends, troubled. Oh, my mother, alas my mother, my poor mother, it makes one say.

I want to draw your attention to this. If there have been untimely losses, a lack of belonging, value, or love within the family, if the child was raised with fear, violence, comparison, and pressure, and was abandoned prematurely; that subconscious slowly begins to fill with dark spots. It accumulates sediment. It develops over days, years. It grows. It flourishes. Those dark spots, aren’t they? They are real game-changers. I pay attention to those spots. My advice to you is: Confront them. Because anger is the most resilient emotion against time.

WEEK’S CONSCIOUSNESS NOTE
What we need to discover within our inner world is the culture of violence, the disease of our age. The other day, I read a news report. Dr. Egemen Aktaş, Secretary General of the Antalya Medical Chamber, made a statement about the increasing incidents of insult, violence, assault, and threats against healthcare workers. You’re not surprised, are you? I know you’ve read many similar news reports. Attacks on journalists are the most famous. Children who can’t quell their anger; who knows whose pain they are ready to inflict on the person in front of them at any moment. A wounded person usually begins by saying: “Do you know who I am?”

I regretfully analyze that we have become a rule-breaking, arrogant, and lonely society in traffic, in queues, on the streets, in relationships, in communication. Jealousy, comparison, disdain, identities are knee-deep. When did we become like this? We create new problems for ourselves every day, in addition to the old ones. In such an environment, we can only isolate ourselves with consciousness and awareness. Are we capable of choosing our own path, planning our route, living healthily without honking at yellow lights, without exploding internally? Or is there something else within us that ultimately steers the rudder of life?

Uğur Uğural