DEPENDING ON THE ENVIRONMENT
Hello, my dear friends of life in my heavenly Turkey, whose health is precious, whose hearts are kind, whose souls are beautiful, and who are full of awareness.
Today, I wanted to discuss the topic of “our values” with you, focusing on the concepts of “intention and love.” As a society, we all value values. Values are important for society. If we went out into the street and conducted interviews, asking, for example, “How important are honesty, loyalty, respect, love, courage, cleanliness, and politeness to you?”, I’m sure everyone would say these values are very important… In fact, people who adhere strictly to these values would be even more valuable in our eyes. I want to share a personal experience with you on this subject.
A few weeks ago, I was taking my morning walk in the park. A family of four, emerging from a rather expensive housing estate, slowly approached a luxury car with foreign license plates. The man unlocked the car. As the woman and children got in, the 7-year-old girl threw a small juice box she was holding onto the path. The mother first slapped the child on the head and then began shouting at her in a mix of German and Turkish. The little girl started crying from the blow to her head. I watched in amazement. The box was a short distance ahead of me, and the family was standing to my left.
I suddenly noticed. The box had the following written on it: “With our endless gratitude to nature.”
The woman and children had gotten into the car. The little girl was still crying. But the man was still outside. He leaned his head towards the cockpit, as if searching for something inside the vehicle. Then he straightened up. He didn’t see me because his body was turned towards the car. First, he threw the crumpled, dried pieces of wet wipes on the floor. Then, using his right foot, with a nimble movement despite his belly, he moved towards the floor mat. He dragged something out with the sole of his shoe. In a few seconds, the large piece of paper placed on the floor mat for cleaning after washing was on the floor. You know, if you did this in a developed country, you might even get beaten up. But not in our country. In fact, if you interfere with those who pollute the environment, you might even get beaten up. Why? Because in our country, honesty, loyalty, respect, love, cleanliness, and politeness are very important. This is how we thank nature.
I can’t help it, I wanted to meet the family. After a very brief conversation, the response I got was: “But everyone here is just making things up.”
I won’t go into a lengthy psychological analysis of this sentence, but I want you to know this: This behavioral pattern is a personality disorder. We don’t throw trash on the carpet at home, we don’t spit on it. We don’t directly grab the doorknob while our sister or mother is in the bathroom. But…! If we’re using “but” as an excuse, it means we have values we haven’t embraced.
WEEKLY AWARENESS NOTE
Dear readers, a society that cannot wholeheartedly embrace a value lives according to its environment. In societies that live according to their environment, searching for a memory that adheres to the principle of reality and wholeness is like searching for a needle in a haystack. When asked “Why?”, you will receive answers that contradict themselves and clash with their past, such as “But… everyone here does it,” because they have not internalized their own values. You know very well that these answers will generally contain insults and profanity. At least you see it on screen. Because a person can internalize their cognitive, social, and emotional values until the age of 7. This stage is the age when we develop the highest levels of active and mental achievement. My country is full of adults who are grown up on the outside but remain children on the inside.
Uğur Uğural
